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Yung pakiramdam na masaya ka kapag kasama mo siya?
Alam mong iingatan ka niya habang mag-kasama kayo. Alam mong ipagtatanggol ka niya kapag may nang-away sayo. Ipagsisigawan niyang mahal ka niya at ikaw lang ang nag-iisang babae sa buhay niya. Ipapakita sa buong mundo na kaya ka niyang ipaglaban kahit kanino. Ipapakilala ka sa magulang niya kasi gusto niya talagang maging bahagi ka ng buhay niya. Isasama ka sa mga lugar na alam niyang matutuwa ka. Ipaparamdam sayo na pag kasama mo siya, walang sinuman ang pwedeng umaway, manlait, at mag-alipusta sayo. Sasabihin niyang ingatan mo ang sarili mo kasi sa listahan ng mga taong nag-aalala sayo, siya ang nangunguna. Sasamahan ka niya sa lakad mo. Mag-aalala siya kapag di mo sinagot ang tawag niya. Mag-iisip siya ng mga bagay na pwedeng magpasaya sayo. Maglalambing siya kapag nagtatampo ka. Susuyuin ka niya kapag nagagalit ka. Aalamin niya kung anong nasa isip mo kasi ayaw niyang nababagabag ka.
Ilan lang sa mga bagay na naiparamdam niya sakin sa loob ng limang taon. At habang tumatagal, di yan nagbabagao. Imbes, nadadagdagan pa niya.
Ikaw? Naramdaman mo rin ba yan sakanya? Gaano ba tayo kamahal ng mga tao sa paligid natin? Sapat na ba yung salitang "Mahal kita" para mapatunayan yon? Aminin na nating kailangan rin ng EFFORT. Di naman kailangang araw-araw kayong mag-kasama. Basta alam niyo sa isa't-isa na tapat at nagmamahalan kayo ng tunay.
At nasasabi niyong "Walang Iwanan! Pangako.". ♥ ♥ ♥
Paano nga ba iingatan ang relasyon? Naitanong mo na ba yon sa sarili mo? Di mo ba naisip na may mga bagay tayong dapat isaalang-alang? Basahin mo ang ilan sa mga halimbawa ko...
Tiwala - ito dapat ang hindi mawawala sa relasyon mo sa taong mahal mo. Kahit na sa kaibigan mo.
Oras - lahat ng taong gusto kang makasama ay kailangan ng oras mo. Ang
pagbibigay ng oras ay nangangahulugang pagbibigay ng atensyon.
Pagmamahalan - kapag wala na kayong hinangad na dalawa. Ang tawag dun ay
pagmamahalan. Ang tanging hinahangad niyo eh mapasaya ang bawat isa.
Pagkakaintindihan - kapag may problema, mahalaga ang pagkakaintindihan ng bawat isa. Ilugar
mo ang sarili mo sa sarili niya bakit siya nag kakaganun. At kapag
nalaman mo na. Lambingin mo na para ma resolba ang simpleng problema.
Pagsasakripisyo - kapag may ginagawa ang isa. Kailangan mong
magsakripisyo sa sarili mo na hindi lahat ng oras eh maari mo siyang
makasama. Dahil sa may mga bagay itong ginagawa. Ito ang kulang sa
karamihan ng relasyon. Ito ang kulang. Maaring may tiwala ka. Pero kung
hindi mo maibibigay ang konting sakripisyo para mas mapabuti ang
relasyon niyo, maaring magkaroon ito ng onting bahid. Pero ayos pa rin
naman kung madadaan sa mabuting usapan.
Komunikasyon - Pinaka
importante at pinakamahalaga sa lahat ng aspeto. Kapag ito ang nawala ng
ilang linggo, ilang buwan. Ilang taon. Mawawala ang mga importanteng
tao sayo.
Ito ay hindi lamang sa pag- ibig...
Kahit sa kaibigan.
Pamilya...
Kasama sa trabaho
O anu pa mang relasyon. ♥
Pag nag walk out siya, habulin mo. Pag tinitignan niya lips mo, halikan mo. Pag tinulak ka niya, yakapin mo at wag kang bibitaw.
Pag sinumpa ka niya, halikan mo at sabihin mong mahal na mahal mo siya.
Pag tahimik siya, tanungin mo kung anong ayaw niya.
Pag nakikita mo siyang pagod na pagod, sabihin mo sakaniya na maganda siya.
Pag umiiyak siya, wag kang magsasalita at yakapin mo lang siya ng mahigpit.
Pag nakikita mo siyang naglalakad, magtago ka at gulatin mo sabay yakapin mo siya sa likod.
Pag natatakot siya, protektahan mo.
Pag sinandal niya ulo niya sa balikat mo, taas mo ulo niya at ikiss mo sa ilong.
Pag inaasar ka niya, asarin mo rin siya hanggang sa magtawanan kayo pero siguraduhin mong hindi siya mapipikon.
Pag di niya sinasagot ng matagal, siguraduhin mong ayos lang siya.
Pag tinignan ka niya nang may kasamang pagdududa, sabihin mo sakaniya ang totoo at wag na wag kang magsisinungaling.
Pag sinabi niyang mahal ka niya, nagsasabi siya nang totoo at galing sa puso niya.
Pag kinuha niya kamay mo, hawakan mo rin kamay niya.
Pag nagsabi siya sayo ng sikreto, ibig sabihin pinagkakatiwalaan ka niya na wag mong sasabihin kahit kanino.
Pag tinignan ka niya sa mata, wag kang lilingon hangga’t di siya lumilingon.
Pag namimiss ka niya ng sobra, nasasaktan siya at iparamdam mo sakaniya
na kahit di kayo magkasama siya parin ang laman ng isip at puso mo.
Pag nasaktan mo siya, hindi mawawala ang sakit na nararamdaman niya.
Pag sinabi niyang ayaw na niya, gusto ka parin niyang maging sakaniya.
Tawagan mo siya bago ka matulog at pag gising mo.
Wag kang matutulog hangga’t di siya nakakatulog lalo na pag may sakit siya.
Panuorin niyo ang paborito niyang movie kahit na ayaw mo.
Hayaan mong suotin niya ang damit mo.
Patunayan mong importante siya sayo.
Halikan mo siya sa ulan.
At higit sa lahat, wag na wag kang magsasawa sakaniya at tratuhin mo
siya na parang prinsesa mo para tratuhin ka rin niyang parang prinsepe
niya.
Why do men and women cheat? Is it boredom, thrill of the unknown or something deeper? And are any excuses even legitimate?
 Times have changed and so has the cheating gender divide.
“Women tend to keep these things to themselves, but there are signs that they’re catching up with the guys,” says clinical psychologist Nancy O’Reilly
Technology makes it easier. Instant messaging, texting and cell phones can take an office flirtation up a notch.
But all the tech tools in the world can’t make a person cheat; it’s a choice. When asked why they're unfaithful, men and women usually have different excuses, er, reasons.
Here’s what the experts say:Reason #1: She ain’t what she used to be.Like Adam, the typical man can’t resist the temptation of riper fruit, especially if the woman in his life has let herself go. “If she got physically lazy or gained weight or just doesn’t take care of herself, a guy will start looking at other women,” says Steve Santagati, author of The Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think, Date and Mate – and What Women Can Do to Come Out on Top (Crown).
Women who keep their men on a short leash need to take a “good, hard look in the mirror,” he adds.Men should do the same. He might be a complete slob and still demand perfection from her.
“It’s the typical double standard,” Santagati says.
For their part, guys should try to rediscover the spark at home.
“Make her feel pretty, even if you’re lying,” he advises. “Tell her how beautiful she is and how much you appreciate it. It will make her feel sexy, and she’ll want to make you happy.”Reason #2: Familiarity has bred indifference.What’s the most common excuse Dr. Nancy hears from women? They feel taken for granted. Their guys will discuss the kids, bills and house repairs, but they haven’t really talked in a while. To women, that failure to communicate translates to less intimacy and emotional and relationship satisfaction, says family and marriage therapist Terri Orbuch, host of Detroit’s Love Doctor TV and radio programs.
“When you’re unhappy or dissatisfied in your relationship, you’re more likely to be tempted to look elsewhere,” Orbuch says. And, she adds, you begin to perceive opportunities – the cute co-worker, the flirty dad at the playground. When a woman feels like little more than a household drudge, attention from someone else is extremely seductive.
Reason #3: No one loves a ball buster.Perhaps nothing will drive a married man into the arms of another woman faster than a nagging wife. “She’s like a mosquito,” Santagati says. “He doesn’t want to have sex with her; he wants to swat her away.” And go running for hot sex with a more “understanding” woman.
Reason #4: You’re leading parallel lives.You used to travel the same path, but lately your interests have diverged. Your guy wants to shoot pool with his buddies or watch football in his free time; you’d rather go to festivals or watch The Bachelorette.When you start doing things separately, you’re more likely to meet others who share your interests. Soon you may have more in common with that guy in your photography class than your significant other.
Reason #5: Blame it on wanderlust.Often, married men who cheat can’t explain why. They just feel compelled to bust out of their daily routine. It’s a primitive instinct that dates back to their role as hunter – only this time, they’re hunting women. “Maybe he got married too young,” Santagati says. “Or he just feels as if he hasn’t seen everything.” Women can get wise to this behavior early in a relationship. Watch how he acts in a room full of gorgeous women, Santagati suggests. If you can’t rein him in when your romance is new, you’ll never control him. For longtime couples, it doesn’t take much to snap a man out of the doldrums.
“Get him thinking. Keep him wondering about you. Surprise him sexually,” Santagati says. “The sense of mystery will heighten the experience and keep him interested.”
Reason #6: The passion has fizzled.Even happy marriages – healthy kids, steady finances, faraway in-laws – can breed discontent. Despite the security a wife feels, “she’s bored and needs some excitement,” Dr. Nancy says. Once the romance fades, your guy may not be the man you fell in love with. Instead, he’s a mass of habits that get under your skin. Perhaps you never knew him to begin with or hoped he would change.
A casual affair may put some zing back in your days. “It’s something new, different and exciting,” Alexander says. “When a woman’s Prince Charming turns out to be a frog, women often cheat in hopes of finding a new prince.”
Reason #7: It’s biology, baby.Women may scoff at this theory, but the male urge to get into someone else’s jeans could be in their genes. “It’s our biological nature to be with as many females as possible,” Santagati says.Science backs this up. A study published in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences revealed that men with a particular gene are less likely to bond with their partner, opening the door to infidelity.Santagati, however, has a simpler explanation. “Once we’ve seen a woman naked several times, it becomes commonplace. We want to experience something different – different lips and body types.“We’re only monogamous because we realize that love and friendship are more important than getting laid,” he says.
Reason #8: Your ego needs a boost.You can be in a relationship with a perfectly wonderful, loving man and still need extra affirmation that you’ve still got it. “For whatever reason, that reassuring partner isn’t enough,” Orbuch says. “You look elsewhere, so you can feel like you’re lovable.”Reason #9: It’s just sex.For most guys, sex and love are different things. “We really believe, ‘I can still love my wife and want to have sex with other women,’” Santagati says.That rationale allows guys to cheat guilt-free. If there is guilt, it may not be about the sex but the consequences. Will she kiss and tell? Will the wife find out?
Thinking of cheating on your wife? Santagati has one recommendation. “Consider the worst-case scenario: Your wife finds out and is brokenhearted,” he says. “Ask yourself, is it worth it?”
Reason #10: It’s payback time.When a woman catches her man with his hand in someone else’s cookie jar, she figures she has a right to revenge. “If a woman finds out her significant other has been cheating, she may try to heal those hurt feelings by having sex with another man,” Alexander says.
A smile means more than expressing contentment. Certain studies
have revealed many ways of using your smile to your very own advantage.
People generally smile when they are together but not necessarily
because they are happy. People usually smile out of social reasons, and
such a smiling mask can render a certain message.
We live in a world where most people follow their very own
interests, and it's often not easy to find someone to trust. A smiling
person always inspires trust. A genuine smile can suggest to other
people that one is trustworthy. People who smile are assessed with
greater generosity and extra-version, and when people share something
good to each other, they usually put on a genuine smile. Even economists
consider that smiles are valuable. A smile may increase other people's
trust with approximately 10%.
People may also smile when they are
caught doing bad things. According to a study made by La France and
Hecht (1995), this can in fact be to their own advantage. We have the
tendency to be more indulgent towards those who make mistakes if they
put on a smile while being caught. It doesn't matter if it's a fake
smile, a miserable smile or a genuine smile; they all work for the
wrong-doer's good. Even an ashamed smile may help you get away pretty
easy when you make mistakes such as for instance, forgetting to buy your
spouse an anniversary gift, and so on.
We may also smile when we hear a piece of good news. In this case,
women tend to smile more often than men. But on the other hand, smiling
can also be a means of reducing the pain caused by a troubling
situation. Psychologists call this hypothesis the psychological
feedback. Even if we force ourselves to smile when we don't feel like,
this may be enough to lift up our spirits just a little bit.
When
we feel angry or anxious, our attention tends to narrow down. We can no
longer see what's going on around us and we can only notice what is in
front of us. So when we are stressed out or filled with anger, our ideas
are less pleasant than the way they truly are within our own
conscience. In order to understand a problem, we need those ideas that
we do not find pleasant at that particular emotionally-charged moment.
When we smile, we feel better and increase our attention flexibility and
the ability to think holistically. Smiling can help us focus and
understand better.
Smiling women may seem more attractive to men
than smiling men to women. Men feel very attracted by a smiling,
beautiful woman, whereas women may perceive a smiling man as less
masculine. Psychologists say that a genuine smile never lies. Fake
smiles involve only one's lips, whereas the genuine smiles, also called
Duchenne smiles, also involve one's eyes.
Smiling can be used for hiding one's true feelings, but it's not so
easy to imitate a genuine smile, because a genuine smile takes place
within certain timing. There are certain clues that may help us
determine the genuineness of a smile. Thus, a genuine smile starts
slowly; it takes about half a second to spread out on the whole face.
According to some researches, as compared to a frank and rapid smile,
honest and slower smiles are more trustworthy, more genuine and even
more coquette. "Keep on smiling, and the world will smile with
you." One of the greatest social pleasures is to smile and be smiled to
in return, especially because this comes like a natural thing. As many
of us have probably often noticed, not everyone smiles back at us. Hinsz
and Tomhave (1991) wanted to see the degree to which people are willing
to answer the smiles they receive. In this respect, their results
suggest that 50% of the persons have smiled back when being smiled at. Smiling
can indeed increase our longevity chances. People who smile often live
longer (if their smile is genuine, of course, and not a mere mask). A
1952 study based on some pictures taken of some baseball players
suggested that those who used to smile a lot survived approximately 7
years longer than those who did not smile very often.
Can there ever be just one list of say 10 best clothes to wear to
college? Well yes, there can be one actually! If you want to know what
you should and shouldn't wear to college, continue reading till the end
of this article. You may not learn to dress like a diva at the end of
it, but you won't be a walking wardrobe disaster either!
Every girl on this planet dreads her first day in college whether
she accepts it or not. There is only one thing that leads to this
dreading - what will I wear on the first day? This question has troubled
many girls and given them sleepless nights, I agree. This article will
perfectly clear all the doubts you have ever had on what you should be
wearing to college. Before you start making plans to make some changes
to your wardrobe, there are a few things you should consider. 'What
suits you best?' This is a very important question as depending on this,
we will decide what can be the best clothes for you to wear to college.
Then again, you have to understand that college is all about being a
student and you cannot wear anything that will make you look older than
your age. Yes, some guys would like that but for the ladies, it's a
strict no-no. Avoid everything that will make you stand out of the
crowd, as chances are you won't be 'in' it for long then. Yes, you've
got to be different, but this is how you're going to do it!
What You Should Wear to College?
Shirts
Your shirts are
going to be a very important part of your wardrobe as this is what
people notice first. If you live in a town that is blessed with too much
of sun, stick to wearing light colored simple tees. Avoid too much of
sleeveless as this would give you a horrible tan in the long run. Never
wear anything that shines too much. On those lazy days you can pull on a
cardigan, but make sure you don't make this your habit. For accessories
throughout the year, choose between stoles, mufflers, gloves and shrugs
as and when the weather permits or demands. None of these should be
more prominent than the shirt/sweater you wear.
Denims and Pants
Since
it's hot most of the year, once every week, you can wear a skirt or
some casual shorts to let your legs breathe. Khadi and cotton pants look
cool too. During the winters, stick to denims (no boot cuts and only
black or blue) and a few well designed yet, simple pants. Avoid shorts
completely. These would show the occasional goose bumps that you would
get. If you have to attend just a sport or music class, you can dress in
pajamas too. Once in a while, it's important to you let yourself free!
FootwearWhen it comes to footwear, you have to be careful. You
might think it is cool to wear those red pumps, isn't it? They look so
hot after all. But then, NO! You are not attending a party! Sneakers are
the best option to team up with denims and pants. To give yourself a
change sometimes, wear a pair of nice flip flops. With skirts, team up
some nice flats. As for the boys, stick to those shoes. You'll look the
best in them! Drop Dead GorgeousOnce in a while, you need to
show just how gorgeous you are! On days that need a celebration, a
birthday maybe, dress up just the way you want. Get those pumps out
(finally!) and also get that makeup out. Do your hair just how you want
it and wear any color and fabric that you want, even if it shines
(finally, again!). On such days, dress to make a statement. Get out all
the accessories from the closet as well and make sure you enough of them
on you. As for the guys, will you even bother? These tips on
choosing your college wear are very important as most people are a
little low on their fashion quotient at that age. You like something,
you pick it up and come to college all geared up, ready to flaunt what
you shouldn't be. You have enough trendy teen clothing to choose from;
choose well. Throughout your college days, stick to simplicity. Every
fashion trend fits different age groups differently. Don't try to
imitate a super model on the cover of your favorite magazine, you may
look too overdone for a student. Always, for your entire life, focus on
'style'. As they say, Keep It Stylish!
 There could be a few restrictions with how much you can experiment
with your look and attire but still there are things that you can
try-out to look pretty in your school uniform.
Your school uniform should make you feel good about yourself and
should be stylish. They are not meant to be boring. Let's look at things
you can experiment with, to look pretty in your school uniform.
Well-Fitting Uniform Your uniform should fit you well and should
not be baggy or too tight. It should be well ironed and in a perfect
fit. It should enhance your body structure making you look smart.
Alter your Uniform
You can shorten the length of your skirt,
keeping it above the knee. This will enhance your legs and nothing looks
better than a short and a well fitting skirt. Similarly, you can also
shorten your sleeves, if they are too long or just fold them (if you can
carry if off), it will look smart. Another style you can experiment
with is by combining a well fitting skirt with a baggy shirt (not very
baggy). It looks pretty cool. Use your creative outfit ideas and give
your uniform your style and touch.
Accessorize
Accessorize with a smart tie or a scarf or a jacket
on your uniform. There are different ways of accessorizing with a scarf
and a jacket. You can wear a scarf in so many different ways; you can
tie a scarf around your neck- like a tie, you can also tie it sideways
on your neck. You can wear a tie and experiment with hair bands too. In
case of accessorizing with jewelry, wear cool and small earrings,
neck-pieces with a bracelet.
Optimal Make-up
Heavy makeup on a school uniform is not a cool
idea. Try keeping a natural look; apply a foundation to camouflage
blemishes. Highlight your eyes using a liner and a mascara. Use a lip
loss or a lipstick to glisten your lips and use a little blush.
Flawless Skin
Having a beautiful skin is the most attractive
thing on a person. Beautiful-flawless skin with the above makeup or even
without it will make you look pretty. Take care of your skin and don't
experiment with harmful products to look nice. Keep it simple by
drinking lots of water, eating healthy food, maintaining good hygiene
and exercising regularly.
Manicured Nails
Maintain clean and beautiful nails. Color them or try some nail art work on it. Dirty nails are a big turn off.
Well-Set Hair
Your hair takes almost 50% of the credit in
contributing to your prettiness. There is so much you can do with your
hair, so many school hairstyles you can try. You can tie a high
ponytail, a side ponytail or leave them open with a pretty hair-band.
Keep your hair in a good condition don't use harmful products on your
hair. Trim them and style them by straightening them or curling them.
Use a Deodorant
It is very important that you smell nice. Carry a
deodorant with you to school and use it after you've played a sport or a
dance practice to avoid body odor.
Footwear
If there are no restrictions with the kinda footwear
you should wear, there are so many options for you to experiment with.
Try tennis shoes or ballet flats or some matching formal trendy shoes
that don't have high heels. High heels are not recommended as they do
not collaborate with the activities you do in school. They can be
uncomfortable for brisk walking or running.
Wear the Right Attitude
Even if you have a no makeup and no
accessories on you, you can still look nice if you carry yourself
confidently and with a good attitude. Right attitude is the attitude
that merges with the real you. Don't walk or sit clumsily; maintain an
upright back posture. Your body language speaks everything about who you
are.
Bags
Carry cool and funky bags to school; it adds to your
overall look. Experiment with contrast colors or with sober colors and
with different styles.
It is good to look pretty and dress up,
but don't overdo it. Nothing in excess is good! Style and flaunt but
don't let it take over your mind and change you into a different person.
Beauty
is a true expression of who you are. The coolest girls are never the
ones that have the prettiest face or the best bodies; they're the ones
with their own unique style and look. They are the ones who are true to
who they are." ~ Wendy Zomnir
"Sa Piling ni Girlfriend" - MVL
Sa mga lalake, masarap daw ang pakiramdam kapag may girlfriend, yung may
ka-holding-hands ka, yung may kasama sa bawat lakad o mahahalagang
bahagi ng buhay mo, yung may kilig factor na tuwing maiisip mo na
sinabihan ka nya ng iloveyou ay daig mo pa ang smile ni John Lloyd na
sinagot ni Bea. Maraming dahilan kung bakit natin gusto magkaroon ng girlfriend, yung iba
out-of-curiosity
lang, yung iba naman para lang magkaroon ng maipagyayabang sa tropa –
“mga pre, syota ko pala”, yung iba naman para magkaroon ng inspirasyon
at gusto mabago ang direksyon sa buhay.
(note: wag gamitin ang word na "syota", pangit kasi pakinggan, girlfriend dapat)
Marami... Iba-iba... May mabuti at masamang intensyon. May nais ay panandalian at pangmatagalang relasyon.
Kapag sa panliligaw, ang mga lalake, todo sa panunuyo,
• andyan yung magtitipid at hindi kakain para lamang makabili ng tsokolate na hersheys o ferrero,
• makabili ng bouquet of flowers sa mall na nagkakahalagang 1 libo pero kung nagtitipid talaga ay makikipagsiksikan sa Dangwa,
• yung susunduin ang babae, yung tatanungin na “kumain ka na ba? Wag
kang magpapagutom ha?” yung tipong daig pa ang tatay kung magbigay ng
paalala.
• Yung bibitbitin ang bag na dala ni Girl kahit na ang
laman lang naman ay lipstick at napkin, akala mo naman mabigat, pero
dahil nga nagpapasikat ka, lahat gusto mo bitbitin.
Iba-iba ang paraan ng panliligaw, depende sa tipo ng babae, depende sa trip ng babae.
At eto na, ang pinakahihintay mo, nahulog ang kalooban ng babae sa’yo
na isang masugid na manliligaw, nakuha mo na ang matamis nyang oo. Wag
mong sayangin, ibigay mo ang buong pagmamahal mo hanggang sa pagtanda
nyo.
Ang mga babae kasi, 99.84% dyan, gusto ng seryosong
relasyon, ang mga lalake lang naman ang madalas na sumisira, kasi naman,
may girlfriend ka na, tumitingin ka pa sa iba. Nakalimutan mo na ba
yung paghihirap mo sa panliligaw sa girlfriend mo, nakalimutan mo na rin
ba ang total amount ng nagastos mo sa pamasahe, sa bulaklak, sa
tsokolate at kung anu-ano pang kapasikatan ang ginawa mo para mapaibig
sya?
At eto, may nakilala ka lang na “chick”, laglag na agad
ang brief mo at sasabihin mo sa sarili mong, “umiibig na naman ata ako”.
Loko, infatuation lang yan, itulog mo nalang yan.
Yung iba
kasi, kapag may chick daw, wow, astig, ang pogi ko, kulang nalang kapag
naglalakad ka sa mall, ipagsigawan mo, “oops oops oops? Akala nyo
celebrity, nagkakamali kayo!”
Hindi nasusukat ang kapogian ng
isang lalake, sa dami ng kanyang chicks. Akala nyo lang Masaya, sa
umpisa oo, kinikilig ka eh, ang pogi mong ^%^&%^% ka eh! Pero kapag
dumating na yung moment na naboboring ka na, maiisip mo, gusto ko ng
umuwi, namimiss ko na si GF. Naks, sweet mo ha!
Mas masarap sa
piling ng GF, kasi kahit hindi ka maligo, dahil tinatamad ka, o sadyang
mabantot ka lang talaga, ayos lang.. Kay chicks, naku, maligo ka sa
pabango dapat.
Kay GF, kahit na 7 beses mo ng suot ang damit mo
sa 7 araw nyong pagdi-date, ayos lang.. Mahal ka pa rin nyan.. Kay
chicks, naku, dapat disposable ang mga damit mo.
Kay GF, kahit
na ayain mo yan sa paotsin kasi wala ka ng pera, (hindi naman siguro
24/7 may laman ang wallet mo, mauubusan ka rin), ayos lang kay GF, ang
importante kasi sa mga babae, hindi ang pagkain na meron kayo, kundi ang
moment na magkasama kayo... Kay chicks, naku, City Buffet o Tong Yang o
Yakimix dapat... (tapos pagpapawisan ka pag-bill-out na.)
Marami ang pagkakaiba ng girlfriend sa chicks.. Kaya ikaw na lalakeng
nakakabasa nito, mag-isip-isip ka, kung may GF ka na, wag ka ng umariba
ng iba.. Mas masarap pa rin sa piling ng girlfriend.
At ang
chicks, babae din sila, maaari din silang mahulog sa’yo, sa bitag mo! Ay
sa pagmamahal mo pala.. Pero sa huli, ang pipiliin mo rin naman si GF
di’ba? Ano ang ginawa mo, sinaktan at pinaasa mo lang sila. Na sana kung
ginawa mo nalang silang kaibigan mo, na wala kang intensyon na iba,
sana minsan sa buhay mo, naging mabuting tao ka rin sa mata nila.
Wag mong piliin na maging parang love story sa pelikula ang buhay mo,
na pare-pareho ang kinahantungan, iba-iba nga lang ang leading woman.
Spend time with your girlfriend, yung legal ha! Kasi ang buhay,
mahiwaga, hindi mo alam kung kelan ito matatapos, kasi malay mo, isa sa
naging chick mo, tapusin ang buhay mo. Naku lagot.
“Treat each day as if that will be your last day”
Mas masarap ang pagmamahal ng girlfriend.
Paano daw malalaman kapag malapit ng matapos ang isang relasyon?
Malalaman mo naman na matatapos na ang inyong relasyon kapag hindi na
kayo tulad ng dati. Kapag lagi na kayong nag-aaway. Tipong mas marami na
yung away kesa sa bati. Tapos nagagawa niyo ng tiisin ang isat-isa.
Tipong wala ka ng pakialam kung may hindi mag text ng isang araw. Kawawa
dito yung taong sobrang nagmamahal. Hindi masyadon
g masasaktan sa relasyong ito yung na fall out of love. Kasi dumating siya sa point na biglang nawala yung pag-ibig niya eh.
Kapag ganun at nakakahalata ka na, kung kaya mong ayusin. Ayusin mo,
hindi ako makakapagpayo ng kung ano ang dapat mong gawin dahil kayo ang
nasa relasyon. Kayo ang may alam ng istorya niyong dalawa. At kapag
ginawa mo na ang lahat ng magagawa mo at wala pa rin. Ihanda mo na ang
sarili mo na anumang araw eh maari siyang mawala sayo.
Huwag mo
dadamdamin ito. Parte ito ng buhay kapag umibig ka. Hindi naman kasi
laging masaya ang kahihinatnan kapag nagmahal ka eh. Nagmamahal ka at
nasasaktan para matuto ka. Para sa susunod, mas alam mo na ang gagawin
mo, mas maalagaan mo ang relasyon niyo at ang sarili mo.
Yung pakiramdam na masaya ka kapag kasama mo siya?
Alam mong iingatan ka niya habang mag-kasama kayo. Alam mong ipagtatanggol ka niya kapag may nang-away sayo. Ipagsisigawan niyang mahal ka niya at ikaw lang ang nag-iisang babae sa buhay niya. Ipapakita sa buong mundo na kaya ka niyang ipaglaban kahit kanino. Ipapakilala ka sa magulang niya kasi gusto niya talagang maging bahagi ka ng buhay niya. Isasama ka sa mga lugar na alam niyang matutuwa ka. Ipaparamdam sayo na pag kasama mo siya, walang sinuman ang pwedeng umaway, manlait, at mag-alipusta sayo. Sasabihin niyang ingatan mo ang sarili mo kasi sa listahan ng mga taong nag-aalala sayo, siya ang nangunguna. Sasamahan ka niya sa lakad mo. Mag-aalala siya kapag di mo sinagot ang tawag niya. Mag-iisip siya ng mga bagay na pwedeng magpasaya sayo. Maglalambing siya kapag nagtatampo ka. Susuyuin ka niya kapag nagagalit ka. Aalamin niya kung anong nasa isip mo kasi ayaw niyang nababagabag ka.
Ilan lang sa mga bagay na naiparamdam niya sakin sa loob ng limang taon. At habang tumatagal, di yan nagbabagao. Imbes, nadadagdagan pa niya.
Ikaw? Naramdaman mo rin ba yan sakanya? Gaano ba tayo kamahal ng mga tao sa paligid natin? Sapat na ba yung salitang "Mahal kita" para mapatunayan yon? Aminin na nating kailangan rin ng EFFORT. Di naman kailangang araw-araw kayong mag-kasama. Basta alam niyo sa isa't-isa na tapat at nagmamahalan kayo ng tunay.
At nasasabi niyong "Walang Iwanan! Pangako.". ♥ ♥ ♥
Paano nga ba iingatan ang relasyon? Naitanong mo na ba yon sa sarili mo? Di mo ba naisip na may mga bagay tayong dapat isaalang-alang? Basahin mo ang ilan sa mga halimbawa ko...
Tiwala - ito dapat ang hindi mawawala sa relasyon mo sa taong mahal mo. Kahit na sa kaibigan mo.
Oras - lahat ng taong gusto kang makasama ay kailangan ng oras mo. Ang
pagbibigay ng oras ay nangangahulugang pagbibigay ng atensyon.
Pagmamahalan - kapag wala na kayong hinangad na dalawa. Ang tawag dun ay
pagmamahalan. Ang tanging hinahangad niyo eh mapasaya ang bawat isa.
Pagkakaintindihan - kapag may problema, mahalaga ang pagkakaintindihan ng bawat isa. Ilugar
mo ang sarili mo sa sarili niya bakit siya nag kakaganun. At kapag
nalaman mo na. Lambingin mo na para ma resolba ang simpleng problema.
Pagsasakripisyo - kapag may ginagawa ang isa. Kailangan mong
magsakripisyo sa sarili mo na hindi lahat ng oras eh maari mo siyang
makasama. Dahil sa may mga bagay itong ginagawa. Ito ang kulang sa
karamihan ng relasyon. Ito ang kulang. Maaring may tiwala ka. Pero kung
hindi mo maibibigay ang konting sakripisyo para mas mapabuti ang
relasyon niyo, maaring magkaroon ito ng onting bahid. Pero ayos pa rin
naman kung madadaan sa mabuting usapan.
Komunikasyon - Pinaka
importante at pinakamahalaga sa lahat ng aspeto. Kapag ito ang nawala ng
ilang linggo, ilang buwan. Ilang taon. Mawawala ang mga importanteng
tao sayo.
Ito ay hindi lamang sa pag- ibig...
Kahit sa kaibigan.
Pamilya...
Kasama sa trabaho
O anu pa mang relasyon. ♥
Pag nag walk out siya, habulin mo. Pag tinitignan niya lips mo, halikan mo. Pag tinulak ka niya, yakapin mo at wag kang bibitaw.
Pag sinumpa ka niya, halikan mo at sabihin mong mahal na mahal mo siya.
Pag tahimik siya, tanungin mo kung anong ayaw niya.
Pag nakikita mo siyang pagod na pagod, sabihin mo sakaniya na maganda siya.
Pag umiiyak siya, wag kang magsasalita at yakapin mo lang siya ng mahigpit.
Pag nakikita mo siyang naglalakad, magtago ka at gulatin mo sabay yakapin mo siya sa likod.
Pag natatakot siya, protektahan mo.
Pag sinandal niya ulo niya sa balikat mo, taas mo ulo niya at ikiss mo sa ilong.
Pag inaasar ka niya, asarin mo rin siya hanggang sa magtawanan kayo pero siguraduhin mong hindi siya mapipikon.
Pag di niya sinasagot ng matagal, siguraduhin mong ayos lang siya.
Pag tinignan ka niya nang may kasamang pagdududa, sabihin mo sakaniya ang totoo at wag na wag kang magsisinungaling.
Pag sinabi niyang mahal ka niya, nagsasabi siya nang totoo at galing sa puso niya.
Pag kinuha niya kamay mo, hawakan mo rin kamay niya.
Pag nagsabi siya sayo ng sikreto, ibig sabihin pinagkakatiwalaan ka niya na wag mong sasabihin kahit kanino.
Pag tinignan ka niya sa mata, wag kang lilingon hangga’t di siya lumilingon.
Pag namimiss ka niya ng sobra, nasasaktan siya at iparamdam mo sakaniya
na kahit di kayo magkasama siya parin ang laman ng isip at puso mo.
Pag nasaktan mo siya, hindi mawawala ang sakit na nararamdaman niya.
Pag sinabi niyang ayaw na niya, gusto ka parin niyang maging sakaniya.
Tawagan mo siya bago ka matulog at pag gising mo.
Wag kang matutulog hangga’t di siya nakakatulog lalo na pag may sakit siya.
Panuorin niyo ang paborito niyang movie kahit na ayaw mo.
Hayaan mong suotin niya ang damit mo.
Patunayan mong importante siya sayo.
Halikan mo siya sa ulan.
At higit sa lahat, wag na wag kang magsasawa sakaniya at tratuhin mo
siya na parang prinsesa mo para tratuhin ka rin niyang parang prinsepe
niya.
Why do men and women cheat? Is it boredom, thrill of the unknown or something deeper? And are any excuses even legitimate?
Times have changed and so has the cheating gender divide.
“Women tend to keep these things to themselves, but there are signs that they’re catching up with the guys,” says clinical psychologist Nancy O’Reilly
Technology makes it easier. Instant messaging, texting and cell phones can take an office flirtation up a notch.
But all the tech tools in the world can’t make a person cheat; it’s a choice. When asked why they're unfaithful, men and women usually have different excuses, er, reasons.
Here’s what the experts say:Reason #1: She ain’t what she used to be.Like Adam, the typical man can’t resist the temptation of riper fruit, especially if the woman in his life has let herself go. “If she got physically lazy or gained weight or just doesn’t take care of herself, a guy will start looking at other women,” says Steve Santagati, author of The Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think, Date and Mate – and What Women Can Do to Come Out on Top (Crown).
Women who keep their men on a short leash need to take a “good, hard look in the mirror,” he adds.Men should do the same. He might be a complete slob and still demand perfection from her.
“It’s the typical double standard,” Santagati says.
For their part, guys should try to rediscover the spark at home.
“Make her feel pretty, even if you’re lying,” he advises. “Tell her how beautiful she is and how much you appreciate it. It will make her feel sexy, and she’ll want to make you happy.”Reason #2: Familiarity has bred indifference.What’s the most common excuse Dr. Nancy hears from women? They feel taken for granted. Their guys will discuss the kids, bills and house repairs, but they haven’t really talked in a while. To women, that failure to communicate translates to less intimacy and emotional and relationship satisfaction, says family and marriage therapist Terri Orbuch, host of Detroit’s Love Doctor TV and radio programs.
“When you’re unhappy or dissatisfied in your relationship, you’re more likely to be tempted to look elsewhere,” Orbuch says. And, she adds, you begin to perceive opportunities – the cute co-worker, the flirty dad at the playground. When a woman feels like little more than a household drudge, attention from someone else is extremely seductive.
Reason #3: No one loves a ball buster.Perhaps nothing will drive a married man into the arms of another woman faster than a nagging wife. “She’s like a mosquito,” Santagati says. “He doesn’t want to have sex with her; he wants to swat her away.” And go running for hot sex with a more “understanding” woman.
Reason #4: You’re leading parallel lives.You used to travel the same path, but lately your interests have diverged. Your guy wants to shoot pool with his buddies or watch football in his free time; you’d rather go to festivals or watch The Bachelorette.When you start doing things separately, you’re more likely to meet others who share your interests. Soon you may have more in common with that guy in your photography class than your significant other.
Reason #5: Blame it on wanderlust.Often, married men who cheat can’t explain why. They just feel compelled to bust out of their daily routine. It’s a primitive instinct that dates back to their role as hunter – only this time, they’re hunting women. “Maybe he got married too young,” Santagati says. “Or he just feels as if he hasn’t seen everything.” Women can get wise to this behavior early in a relationship. Watch how he acts in a room full of gorgeous women, Santagati suggests. If you can’t rein him in when your romance is new, you’ll never control him. For longtime couples, it doesn’t take much to snap a man out of the doldrums.
“Get him thinking. Keep him wondering about you. Surprise him sexually,” Santagati says. “The sense of mystery will heighten the experience and keep him interested.”
Reason #6: The passion has fizzled.Even happy marriages – healthy kids, steady finances, faraway in-laws – can breed discontent. Despite the security a wife feels, “she’s bored and needs some excitement,” Dr. Nancy says. Once the romance fades, your guy may not be the man you fell in love with. Instead, he’s a mass of habits that get under your skin. Perhaps you never knew him to begin with or hoped he would change.
A casual affair may put some zing back in your days. “It’s something new, different and exciting,” Alexander says. “When a woman’s Prince Charming turns out to be a frog, women often cheat in hopes of finding a new prince.”
Reason #7: It’s biology, baby.Women may scoff at this theory, but the male urge to get into someone else’s jeans could be in their genes. “It’s our biological nature to be with as many females as possible,” Santagati says.Science backs this up. A study published in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences revealed that men with a particular gene are less likely to bond with their partner, opening the door to infidelity.Santagati, however, has a simpler explanation. “Once we’ve seen a woman naked several times, it becomes commonplace. We want to experience something different – different lips and body types.“We’re only monogamous because we realize that love and friendship are more important than getting laid,” he says.
Reason #8: Your ego needs a boost.You can be in a relationship with a perfectly wonderful, loving man and still need extra affirmation that you’ve still got it. “For whatever reason, that reassuring partner isn’t enough,” Orbuch says. “You look elsewhere, so you can feel like you’re lovable.”Reason #9: It’s just sex.For most guys, sex and love are different things. “We really believe, ‘I can still love my wife and want to have sex with other women,’” Santagati says.That rationale allows guys to cheat guilt-free. If there is guilt, it may not be about the sex but the consequences. Will she kiss and tell? Will the wife find out?
Thinking of cheating on your wife? Santagati has one recommendation. “Consider the worst-case scenario: Your wife finds out and is brokenhearted,” he says. “Ask yourself, is it worth it?”
Reason #10: It’s payback time.When a woman catches her man with his hand in someone else’s cookie jar, she figures she has a right to revenge. “If a woman finds out her significant other has been cheating, she may try to heal those hurt feelings by having sex with another man,” Alexander says.
A smile means more than expressing contentment. Certain studies
have revealed many ways of using your smile to your very own advantage.
People generally smile when they are together but not necessarily
because they are happy. People usually smile out of social reasons, and
such a smiling mask can render a certain message.
We live in a world where most people follow their very own
interests, and it's often not easy to find someone to trust. A smiling
person always inspires trust. A genuine smile can suggest to other
people that one is trustworthy. People who smile are assessed with
greater generosity and extra-version, and when people share something
good to each other, they usually put on a genuine smile. Even economists
consider that smiles are valuable. A smile may increase other people's
trust with approximately 10%.
People may also smile when they are
caught doing bad things. According to a study made by La France and
Hecht (1995), this can in fact be to their own advantage. We have the
tendency to be more indulgent towards those who make mistakes if they
put on a smile while being caught. It doesn't matter if it's a fake
smile, a miserable smile or a genuine smile; they all work for the
wrong-doer's good. Even an ashamed smile may help you get away pretty
easy when you make mistakes such as for instance, forgetting to buy your
spouse an anniversary gift, and so on.
We may also smile when we hear a piece of good news. In this case,
women tend to smile more often than men. But on the other hand, smiling
can also be a means of reducing the pain caused by a troubling
situation. Psychologists call this hypothesis the psychological
feedback. Even if we force ourselves to smile when we don't feel like,
this may be enough to lift up our spirits just a little bit.
When
we feel angry or anxious, our attention tends to narrow down. We can no
longer see what's going on around us and we can only notice what is in
front of us. So when we are stressed out or filled with anger, our ideas
are less pleasant than the way they truly are within our own
conscience. In order to understand a problem, we need those ideas that
we do not find pleasant at that particular emotionally-charged moment.
When we smile, we feel better and increase our attention flexibility and
the ability to think holistically. Smiling can help us focus and
understand better.
Smiling women may seem more attractive to men
than smiling men to women. Men feel very attracted by a smiling,
beautiful woman, whereas women may perceive a smiling man as less
masculine. Psychologists say that a genuine smile never lies. Fake
smiles involve only one's lips, whereas the genuine smiles, also called
Duchenne smiles, also involve one's eyes.
Smiling can be used for hiding one's true feelings, but it's not so
easy to imitate a genuine smile, because a genuine smile takes place
within certain timing. There are certain clues that may help us
determine the genuineness of a smile. Thus, a genuine smile starts
slowly; it takes about half a second to spread out on the whole face.
According to some researches, as compared to a frank and rapid smile,
honest and slower smiles are more trustworthy, more genuine and even
more coquette. "Keep on smiling, and the world will smile with
you." One of the greatest social pleasures is to smile and be smiled to
in return, especially because this comes like a natural thing. As many
of us have probably often noticed, not everyone smiles back at us. Hinsz
and Tomhave (1991) wanted to see the degree to which people are willing
to answer the smiles they receive. In this respect, their results
suggest that 50% of the persons have smiled back when being smiled at. Smiling
can indeed increase our longevity chances. People who smile often live
longer (if their smile is genuine, of course, and not a mere mask). A
1952 study based on some pictures taken of some baseball players
suggested that those who used to smile a lot survived approximately 7
years longer than those who did not smile very often.
Can there ever be just one list of say 10 best clothes to wear to
college? Well yes, there can be one actually! If you want to know what
you should and shouldn't wear to college, continue reading till the end
of this article. You may not learn to dress like a diva at the end of
it, but you won't be a walking wardrobe disaster either!
Every girl on this planet dreads her first day in college whether
she accepts it or not. There is only one thing that leads to this
dreading - what will I wear on the first day? This question has troubled
many girls and given them sleepless nights, I agree. This article will
perfectly clear all the doubts you have ever had on what you should be
wearing to college. Before you start making plans to make some changes
to your wardrobe, there are a few things you should consider. 'What
suits you best?' This is a very important question as depending on this,
we will decide what can be the best clothes for you to wear to college.
Then again, you have to understand that college is all about being a
student and you cannot wear anything that will make you look older than
your age. Yes, some guys would like that but for the ladies, it's a
strict no-no. Avoid everything that will make you stand out of the
crowd, as chances are you won't be 'in' it for long then. Yes, you've
got to be different, but this is how you're going to do it!
What You Should Wear to College?
Shirts
Your shirts are
going to be a very important part of your wardrobe as this is what
people notice first. If you live in a town that is blessed with too much
of sun, stick to wearing light colored simple tees. Avoid too much of
sleeveless as this would give you a horrible tan in the long run. Never
wear anything that shines too much. On those lazy days you can pull on a
cardigan, but make sure you don't make this your habit. For accessories
throughout the year, choose between stoles, mufflers, gloves and shrugs
as and when the weather permits or demands. None of these should be
more prominent than the shirt/sweater you wear.
Denims and Pants
Since
it's hot most of the year, once every week, you can wear a skirt or
some casual shorts to let your legs breathe. Khadi and cotton pants look
cool too. During the winters, stick to denims (no boot cuts and only
black or blue) and a few well designed yet, simple pants. Avoid shorts
completely. These would show the occasional goose bumps that you would
get. If you have to attend just a sport or music class, you can dress in
pajamas too. Once in a while, it's important to you let yourself free!
FootwearWhen it comes to footwear, you have to be careful. You
might think it is cool to wear those red pumps, isn't it? They look so
hot after all. But then, NO! You are not attending a party! Sneakers are
the best option to team up with denims and pants. To give yourself a
change sometimes, wear a pair of nice flip flops. With skirts, team up
some nice flats. As for the boys, stick to those shoes. You'll look the
best in them! Drop Dead GorgeousOnce in a while, you need to
show just how gorgeous you are! On days that need a celebration, a
birthday maybe, dress up just the way you want. Get those pumps out
(finally!) and also get that makeup out. Do your hair just how you want
it and wear any color and fabric that you want, even if it shines
(finally, again!). On such days, dress to make a statement. Get out all
the accessories from the closet as well and make sure you enough of them
on you. As for the guys, will you even bother? These tips on
choosing your college wear are very important as most people are a
little low on their fashion quotient at that age. You like something,
you pick it up and come to college all geared up, ready to flaunt what
you shouldn't be. You have enough trendy teen clothing to choose from;
choose well. Throughout your college days, stick to simplicity. Every
fashion trend fits different age groups differently. Don't try to
imitate a super model on the cover of your favorite magazine, you may
look too overdone for a student. Always, for your entire life, focus on
'style'. As they say, Keep It Stylish!
There could be a few restrictions with how much you can experiment
with your look and attire but still there are things that you can
try-out to look pretty in your school uniform.
Your school uniform should make you feel good about yourself and
should be stylish. They are not meant to be boring. Let's look at things
you can experiment with, to look pretty in your school uniform.
Well-Fitting Uniform Your uniform should fit you well and should
not be baggy or too tight. It should be well ironed and in a perfect
fit. It should enhance your body structure making you look smart.
Alter your Uniform
You can shorten the length of your skirt,
keeping it above the knee. This will enhance your legs and nothing looks
better than a short and a well fitting skirt. Similarly, you can also
shorten your sleeves, if they are too long or just fold them (if you can
carry if off), it will look smart. Another style you can experiment
with is by combining a well fitting skirt with a baggy shirt (not very
baggy). It looks pretty cool. Use your creative outfit ideas and give
your uniform your style and touch.
Accessorize
Accessorize with a smart tie or a scarf or a jacket
on your uniform. There are different ways of accessorizing with a scarf
and a jacket. You can wear a scarf in so many different ways; you can
tie a scarf around your neck- like a tie, you can also tie it sideways
on your neck. You can wear a tie and experiment with hair bands too. In
case of accessorizing with jewelry, wear cool and small earrings,
neck-pieces with a bracelet.
Optimal Make-up
Heavy makeup on a school uniform is not a cool
idea. Try keeping a natural look; apply a foundation to camouflage
blemishes. Highlight your eyes using a liner and a mascara. Use a lip
loss or a lipstick to glisten your lips and use a little blush.
Flawless Skin
Having a beautiful skin is the most attractive
thing on a person. Beautiful-flawless skin with the above makeup or even
without it will make you look pretty. Take care of your skin and don't
experiment with harmful products to look nice. Keep it simple by
drinking lots of water, eating healthy food, maintaining good hygiene
and exercising regularly.
Manicured Nails
Maintain clean and beautiful nails. Color them or try some nail art work on it. Dirty nails are a big turn off.
Well-Set Hair
Your hair takes almost 50% of the credit in
contributing to your prettiness. There is so much you can do with your
hair, so many school hairstyles you can try. You can tie a high
ponytail, a side ponytail or leave them open with a pretty hair-band.
Keep your hair in a good condition don't use harmful products on your
hair. Trim them and style them by straightening them or curling them.
Use a Deodorant
It is very important that you smell nice. Carry a
deodorant with you to school and use it after you've played a sport or a
dance practice to avoid body odor.
Footwear
If there are no restrictions with the kinda footwear
you should wear, there are so many options for you to experiment with.
Try tennis shoes or ballet flats or some matching formal trendy shoes
that don't have high heels. High heels are not recommended as they do
not collaborate with the activities you do in school. They can be
uncomfortable for brisk walking or running.
Wear the Right Attitude
Even if you have a no makeup and no
accessories on you, you can still look nice if you carry yourself
confidently and with a good attitude. Right attitude is the attitude
that merges with the real you. Don't walk or sit clumsily; maintain an
upright back posture. Your body language speaks everything about who you
are.
Bags
Carry cool and funky bags to school; it adds to your
overall look. Experiment with contrast colors or with sober colors and
with different styles.
It is good to look pretty and dress up,
but don't overdo it. Nothing in excess is good! Style and flaunt but
don't let it take over your mind and change you into a different person.
Beauty
is a true expression of who you are. The coolest girls are never the
ones that have the prettiest face or the best bodies; they're the ones
with their own unique style and look. They are the ones who are true to
who they are." ~ Wendy Zomnir
"Sa Piling ni Girlfriend" - MVL
Sa mga lalake, masarap daw ang pakiramdam kapag may girlfriend, yung may
ka-holding-hands ka, yung may kasama sa bawat lakad o mahahalagang
bahagi ng buhay mo, yung may kilig factor na tuwing maiisip mo na
sinabihan ka nya ng iloveyou ay daig mo pa ang smile ni John Lloyd na
sinagot ni Bea. Maraming dahilan kung bakit natin gusto magkaroon ng girlfriend, yung iba
out-of-curiosity
lang, yung iba naman para lang magkaroon ng maipagyayabang sa tropa –
“mga pre, syota ko pala”, yung iba naman para magkaroon ng inspirasyon
at gusto mabago ang direksyon sa buhay.
(note: wag gamitin ang word na "syota", pangit kasi pakinggan, girlfriend dapat)
Marami... Iba-iba... May mabuti at masamang intensyon. May nais ay panandalian at pangmatagalang relasyon.
Kapag sa panliligaw, ang mga lalake, todo sa panunuyo,
• andyan yung magtitipid at hindi kakain para lamang makabili ng tsokolate na hersheys o ferrero,
• makabili ng bouquet of flowers sa mall na nagkakahalagang 1 libo pero kung nagtitipid talaga ay makikipagsiksikan sa Dangwa,
• yung susunduin ang babae, yung tatanungin na “kumain ka na ba? Wag
kang magpapagutom ha?” yung tipong daig pa ang tatay kung magbigay ng
paalala.
• Yung bibitbitin ang bag na dala ni Girl kahit na ang
laman lang naman ay lipstick at napkin, akala mo naman mabigat, pero
dahil nga nagpapasikat ka, lahat gusto mo bitbitin.
Iba-iba ang paraan ng panliligaw, depende sa tipo ng babae, depende sa trip ng babae.
At eto na, ang pinakahihintay mo, nahulog ang kalooban ng babae sa’yo
na isang masugid na manliligaw, nakuha mo na ang matamis nyang oo. Wag
mong sayangin, ibigay mo ang buong pagmamahal mo hanggang sa pagtanda
nyo.
Ang mga babae kasi, 99.84% dyan, gusto ng seryosong
relasyon, ang mga lalake lang naman ang madalas na sumisira, kasi naman,
may girlfriend ka na, tumitingin ka pa sa iba. Nakalimutan mo na ba
yung paghihirap mo sa panliligaw sa girlfriend mo, nakalimutan mo na rin
ba ang total amount ng nagastos mo sa pamasahe, sa bulaklak, sa
tsokolate at kung anu-ano pang kapasikatan ang ginawa mo para mapaibig
sya?
At eto, may nakilala ka lang na “chick”, laglag na agad
ang brief mo at sasabihin mo sa sarili mong, “umiibig na naman ata ako”.
Loko, infatuation lang yan, itulog mo nalang yan.
Yung iba
kasi, kapag may chick daw, wow, astig, ang pogi ko, kulang nalang kapag
naglalakad ka sa mall, ipagsigawan mo, “oops oops oops? Akala nyo
celebrity, nagkakamali kayo!”
Hindi nasusukat ang kapogian ng
isang lalake, sa dami ng kanyang chicks. Akala nyo lang Masaya, sa
umpisa oo, kinikilig ka eh, ang pogi mong ^%^&%^% ka eh! Pero kapag
dumating na yung moment na naboboring ka na, maiisip mo, gusto ko ng
umuwi, namimiss ko na si GF. Naks, sweet mo ha!
Mas masarap sa
piling ng GF, kasi kahit hindi ka maligo, dahil tinatamad ka, o sadyang
mabantot ka lang talaga, ayos lang.. Kay chicks, naku, maligo ka sa
pabango dapat.
Kay GF, kahit na 7 beses mo ng suot ang damit mo
sa 7 araw nyong pagdi-date, ayos lang.. Mahal ka pa rin nyan.. Kay
chicks, naku, dapat disposable ang mga damit mo.
Kay GF, kahit
na ayain mo yan sa paotsin kasi wala ka ng pera, (hindi naman siguro
24/7 may laman ang wallet mo, mauubusan ka rin), ayos lang kay GF, ang
importante kasi sa mga babae, hindi ang pagkain na meron kayo, kundi ang
moment na magkasama kayo... Kay chicks, naku, City Buffet o Tong Yang o
Yakimix dapat... (tapos pagpapawisan ka pag-bill-out na.)
Marami ang pagkakaiba ng girlfriend sa chicks.. Kaya ikaw na lalakeng
nakakabasa nito, mag-isip-isip ka, kung may GF ka na, wag ka ng umariba
ng iba.. Mas masarap pa rin sa piling ng girlfriend.
At ang
chicks, babae din sila, maaari din silang mahulog sa’yo, sa bitag mo! Ay
sa pagmamahal mo pala.. Pero sa huli, ang pipiliin mo rin naman si GF
di’ba? Ano ang ginawa mo, sinaktan at pinaasa mo lang sila. Na sana kung
ginawa mo nalang silang kaibigan mo, na wala kang intensyon na iba,
sana minsan sa buhay mo, naging mabuting tao ka rin sa mata nila.
Wag mong piliin na maging parang love story sa pelikula ang buhay mo,
na pare-pareho ang kinahantungan, iba-iba nga lang ang leading woman.
Spend time with your girlfriend, yung legal ha! Kasi ang buhay,
mahiwaga, hindi mo alam kung kelan ito matatapos, kasi malay mo, isa sa
naging chick mo, tapusin ang buhay mo. Naku lagot.
“Treat each day as if that will be your last day”
Mas masarap ang pagmamahal ng girlfriend.
Paano daw malalaman kapag malapit ng matapos ang isang relasyon?
Malalaman mo naman na matatapos na ang inyong relasyon kapag hindi na
kayo tulad ng dati. Kapag lagi na kayong nag-aaway. Tipong mas marami na
yung away kesa sa bati. Tapos nagagawa niyo ng tiisin ang isat-isa.
Tipong wala ka ng pakialam kung may hindi mag text ng isang araw. Kawawa
dito yung taong sobrang nagmamahal. Hindi masyadon
g masasaktan sa relasyong ito yung na fall out of love. Kasi dumating siya sa point na biglang nawala yung pag-ibig niya eh.
Kapag ganun at nakakahalata ka na, kung kaya mong ayusin. Ayusin mo,
hindi ako makakapagpayo ng kung ano ang dapat mong gawin dahil kayo ang
nasa relasyon. Kayo ang may alam ng istorya niyong dalawa. At kapag
ginawa mo na ang lahat ng magagawa mo at wala pa rin. Ihanda mo na ang
sarili mo na anumang araw eh maari siyang mawala sayo.
Huwag mo
dadamdamin ito. Parte ito ng buhay kapag umibig ka. Hindi naman kasi
laging masaya ang kahihinatnan kapag nagmahal ka eh. Nagmamahal ka at
nasasaktan para matuto ka. Para sa susunod, mas alam mo na ang gagawin
mo, mas maalagaan mo ang relasyon niyo at ang sarili mo.
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