PAG-IBIG

Isang aklat na maputi, ang isinusulat: luha!
Kaya’t wala kang mabasa kahit isa mang talata.
Kinabisa at inisip mulang ating pagkabata,
tumanda ka’t nagkauban, hindi mo pa maunawa.

Ang pag-ibig, isipin mo, pag inisip, nasa puso;
pag pinuso nasa isip, kaya’t hindi mo makuro.
Lapitan mo nang matagal ang pagsuyo. . .  naglalaho,
layuan mo at kay lungkot, nananaghoy ang pagsuyo.

Ang pag-ibig na dakila’y aayaw ng matagalan,
parang lintik kung gumuhit sa pisngi ng kadiiman.
Ang halik na ubos-tindi, minsan lamang sa halikan,
at ang ilog kung bumaha, tandaan mo’t minsan lamang.

Ang pag-ibig kapag duwag ay payapa’t walang agos,
walang talon, walang baha, walang luha, walang lunos.
Ang pag ibig na matapang ay puso ang inaanod
pati dangal, yama’t dunong nalulunod sa pag-irog.

Ang pag-ibig na buko pa’y nakikinig pa sa aral,
tandang di pa umiibig, nakikita pa ang ilaw,
ngunit kapag nag-alab na’t pati mundo’y nalimutan
iyan, ganyan ang pag-ibig, damdamin at puso lamang!

Kapag ikaw’y umuurong sa sakuna’t sa panganib
ay talagang maliwanag at buo ang iyong isip.
Takot pa ang pag-ibig mo, hindi ka pa umiibig,
pag umibig, pati hukay ay aariin mong langit.

Iyang mga taong duwag na ang puso’y mahihina,
umibig man ay ano pa, di pag-ibig, kundi awa.
Kailangan sa pag-ibig ay hirap at mga luha
at ang duwag ay malayong sa pag-ibig dumakila.

Ang pag-ibig ay may mata, ang pag-ibig ay di bulag,
ang marunong na umibig, bawat sugat ay bulakiak.
Ang pag-ibig ay masakim at aayaw sa kakabyak,
o wala na kahit ano, o ibigay mo nang lahat!

“Ako’y hindi makasulat at ang nanay, nakabantay.”
Asahan mo, katoto ko, hindi ka pa minamahal.
Ngunit kapag sumulat na sa ibabaw man ng hukay
minamahal ka na niya nang higit pa kaysa buhay.

Kayo mga kabataang pag-ibig ang ninanais,
kayo’y mga paruparong sa ilawan lumiligid.
Kapag kayo’y umibig na, hahamakin ang panganib,
at ang mga pakpak ninyo’y masusunog sa pag-ibig!

Paris ♥

I'll be there soon... I promise..

Walang Iwanan! Pangako.

Yung pakiramdam na masaya ka kapag kasama mo siya? 

Alam mong iingatan ka niya habang mag-kasama kayo. Alam mong ipagtatanggol ka niya kapag may nang-away sayo. Ipagsisigawan niyang mahal ka niya at ikaw lang ang nag-iisang babae sa buhay niya. Ipapakita sa buong mundo na kaya ka niyang ipaglaban kahit kanino. Ipapakilala ka sa magulang niya kasi gusto niya talagang maging bahagi ka ng buhay niya. Isasama ka sa mga lugar na alam niyang matutuwa ka. Ipaparamdam sayo na pag kasama mo siya, walang sinuman ang pwedeng umaway, manlait, at mag-alipusta sayo. Sasabihin niyang ingatan mo ang sarili mo kasi sa listahan ng mga taong nag-aalala sayo, siya ang nangunguna. Sasamahan ka niya sa lakad mo. Mag-aalala siya kapag di mo sinagot ang tawag niya. Mag-iisip siya ng mga bagay na pwedeng magpasaya sayo. Maglalambing siya kapag nagtatampo ka. Susuyuin ka niya kapag nagagalit ka. Aalamin niya kung anong nasa isip mo kasi ayaw niyang nababagabag ka.

Ilan lang sa mga bagay na naiparamdam niya sakin sa loob ng limang taon. At habang tumatagal, di yan nagbabagao. Imbes, nadadagdagan pa niya.

Ikaw? Naramdaman mo rin ba yan sakanya? Gaano ba tayo kamahal ng mga tao sa paligid natin? Sapat na ba yung salitang "Mahal kita" para mapatunayan yon? Aminin na nating kailangan rin ng EFFORT. Di naman kailangang araw-araw kayong mag-kasama. Basta alam niyo sa isa't-isa na tapat at nagmamahalan kayo ng tunay.

At nasasabi niyong "Walang Iwanan! Pangako.". ♥ ♥ ♥

RELASYON

 


Paano nga ba iingatan ang relasyon? Naitanong mo na ba yon sa sarili mo? Di mo ba naisip na may mga bagay tayong dapat isaalang-alang? Basahin mo ang ilan sa mga halimbawa ko...



Tiwala - ito dapat ang hindi mawawala sa relasyon mo sa taong mahal mo. Kahit na sa kaibigan mo.

Oras - lahat ng taong gusto kang makasama ay kailangan ng oras mo. Ang pagbibigay ng oras ay nangangahulugang pagbibigay ng atensyon.

Pagmamahalan - kapag wala na kayong hinangad na dalawa. Ang tawag dun ay pagmamahalan. Ang tanging hinahangad niyo eh mapasaya ang bawat isa.

Pagkakaintindihan - kapag may problema, mahalaga ang pagkakaintindihan ng bawat isa. Ilugar mo ang sarili mo sa sarili niya bakit siya nag kakaganun. At kapag nalaman mo na. Lambingin mo na para ma resolba ang simpleng problema.

Pagsasakripisyo - kapag may ginagawa ang isa. Kailangan mong magsakripisyo sa sarili mo na hindi lahat ng oras eh maari mo siyang makasama. Dahil sa may mga bagay itong ginagawa. Ito ang kulang sa karamihan ng relasyon. Ito ang kulang. Maaring may tiwala ka. Pero kung hindi mo maibibigay ang konting sakripisyo para mas mapabuti ang relasyon niyo, maaring magkaroon ito ng onting bahid. Pero ayos pa rin naman kung madadaan sa mabuting usapan.

Komunikasyon - Pinaka importante at pinakamahalaga sa lahat ng aspeto. Kapag ito ang nawala ng ilang linggo, ilang buwan. Ilang taon. Mawawala ang mga importanteng tao sayo.

Ito ay hindi lamang sa pag- ibig...

Kahit sa kaibigan.

Pamilya...
Kasama sa trabaho
O anu pa mang relasyon. ♥

Dapat malaman ng mga TAKEN.

Pag nag walk out siya, habulin mo.
Pag tinitignan niya lips mo, halikan mo.
Pag tinulak ka niya, yakapin mo at wag kang bibitaw.

Pag sinumpa ka niya, halikan mo at sabihin mong mahal na mahal mo siya.
Pag tahimik siya, tanungin mo kung anong ayaw niya.
Pag nakikita mo siyang pagod na pagod, sabihin mo sakaniya na maganda siya.
Pag umiiyak siya, wag kang magsasalita at yakapin mo lang siya ng mahigpit.
Pag nakikita mo siyang naglalakad, magtago ka at gulatin mo sabay yakapin mo siya sa likod.
Pag natatakot siya, protektahan mo.
Pag sinandal niya ulo niya sa balikat mo, taas mo ulo niya at ikiss mo sa ilong.
Pag inaasar ka niya, asarin mo rin siya hanggang sa magtawanan kayo pero siguraduhin mong hindi siya mapipikon.
Pag di niya sinasagot ng matagal, siguraduhin mong ayos lang siya.
Pag tinignan ka niya nang may kasamang pagdududa, sabihin mo sakaniya ang totoo at wag na wag kang magsisinungaling.
Pag sinabi niyang mahal ka niya, nagsasabi siya nang totoo at galing sa puso niya.
Pag kinuha niya kamay mo, hawakan mo rin kamay niya.
Pag nagsabi siya sayo ng sikreto, ibig sabihin pinagkakatiwalaan ka niya na wag mong sasabihin kahit kanino.
Pag tinignan ka niya sa mata, wag kang lilingon hangga’t di siya lumilingon.
Pag namimiss ka niya ng sobra, nasasaktan siya at iparamdam mo sakaniya na kahit di kayo magkasama siya parin ang laman ng isip at puso mo.
Pag nasaktan mo siya, hindi mawawala ang sakit na nararamdaman niya.
Pag sinabi niyang ayaw na niya, gusto ka parin niyang maging sakaniya.
Tawagan mo siya bago ka matulog at pag gising mo.
Wag kang matutulog hangga’t di siya nakakatulog lalo na pag may sakit siya.
Panuorin niyo ang paborito niyang movie kahit na ayaw mo.
Hayaan mong suotin niya ang damit mo.
Patunayan mong importante siya sayo.
Halikan mo siya sa ulan.
At higit sa lahat, wag na wag kang magsasawa sakaniya at tratuhin mo siya na parang prinsesa mo para tratuhin ka rin niyang parang prinsepe niya.

Why Do We Cheat? Top 10 Excuses

Why do men and women cheat? Is it boredom, thrill of the unknown or something deeper? And are any excuses even legitimate?
Times have changed and so has the cheating gender divide.

 “Women tend to keep these things to themselves, but there are signs that they’re catching up with the guys,” says clinical psychologist Nancy O’Reilly

Technology makes it easier. Instant messaging, texting and cell phones can take an office flirtation up a notch.

But all the tech tools in the world can’t make a person cheat; it’s a choice. When asked why they're unfaithful, men and women usually have different excuses, er, reasons. 

Here’s what the experts say:

Reason #1: She ain’t what she used to be.Like Adam, the typical man can’t resist the temptation of riper fruit, especially if the woman in his life has let herself go. 

“If she got physically lazy or gained weight or just doesn’t take care of herself, a guy will start looking at other women,” says Steve Santagati, author of The Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think, Date and Mate – and What Women Can Do to Come Out on Top (Crown). 

Women who keep their men on a short leash need to take a “good, hard look in the mirror,” he adds.

Men should do the same. He might be a complete slob and still demand perfection from her. 

“It’s the typical double standard,” Santagati says.

For their part, guys should try to rediscover the spark at home.

“Make her feel pretty, even if you’re lying,” he advises. “Tell her how beautiful she is and how much you appreciate it. It will make her feel sexy, and she’ll want to make you happy.”

Reason #2: Familiarity has bred indifference.What’s the most common excuse Dr. Nancy hears from women? 

They feel taken for granted. Their guys will discuss the kids, bills and house repairs, but they haven’t really talked in a while. 

To women, that failure to communicate translates to less intimacy and emotional and relationship satisfaction, says family and marriage therapist Terri Orbuch, host of Detroit’s Love Doctor TV and radio programs. 

“When you’re unhappy or dissatisfied in your relationship, you’re more likely to be tempted to look elsewhere,” Orbuch says. 

And, she adds, you begin to perceive opportunities – the cute co-worker, the flirty dad at the playground. 

When a woman feels like little more than a household drudge, attention from someone else is extremely seductive. 

Reason #3: No one loves a ball buster.Perhaps nothing will drive a married man into the arms of another woman faster than a nagging wife. 

“She’s like a mosquito,” Santagati says. “He doesn’t want to have sex with her; he wants to swat her away.” And go running for hot sex with a more “understanding” woman.

Reason #4: You’re leading parallel lives.You used to travel the same path, but lately your interests have diverged. 

Your guy wants to shoot pool with his buddies or watch football in his free time; you’d rather go to festivals or watch The Bachelorette.

When you start doing things separately, you’re more likely to meet others who share your interests. 

Soon you may have more in common with that guy in your photography class than your significant other.

Reason #5: Blame it on wanderlust.Often, married men who cheat can’t explain why. 

They just feel compelled to bust out of their daily routine. 

It’s a primitive instinct that dates back to their role as hunter – only this time, they’re hunting women. 

“Maybe he got married too young,” Santagati says. “Or he just feels as if he hasn’t seen everything.” 

Women can get wise to this behavior early in a relationship. 

Watch how he acts in a room full of gorgeous women, Santagati suggests. 

If you can’t rein him in when your romance is new, you’ll never control him. 

For longtime couples, it doesn’t take much to snap a man out of the doldrums.

“Get him thinking. Keep him wondering about you. 

Surprise him sexually,” Santagati says. “The sense of mystery will heighten the experience and keep him interested.” 

Reason #6: The passion has fizzled.Even happy marriages – healthy kids, steady finances, faraway in-laws – can breed discontent. 

Despite the security a wife feels, “she’s bored and needs some excitement,” Dr. Nancy says. 

Once the romance fades, your guy may not be the man you fell in love with. Instead, he’s a mass of habits that get under your skin. Perhaps you never knew him to begin with or hoped he would change. 

A casual affair may put some zing back in your days. 

“It’s something new, different and exciting,” Alexander says. “When a woman’s Prince Charming turns out to be a frog, women often cheat in hopes of finding a new prince.”

Reason #7: It’s biology, baby.Women may scoff at this theory, but the male urge to get into someone else’s jeans could be in their genes. 

“It’s our biological nature to be with as many females as possible,” Santagati says.

Science backs this up. 

A study published in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences revealed that men with a particular gene are less likely to bond with their partner, opening the door to infidelity.

Santagati, however, has a simpler explanation. 

“Once we’ve seen a woman naked several times, it becomes commonplace. 

We want to experience something different – different lips and body types.

“We’re only monogamous because we realize that love and friendship are more important than getting laid,” he says.

Reason #8: Your ego needs a boost.You can be in a relationship with a perfectly wonderful, loving man and still need extra affirmation that you’ve still got it. 

“For whatever reason, that reassuring partner isn’t enough,” Orbuch says. “You look elsewhere, so you can feel like you’re lovable.”

Reason #9: It’s just sex.For most guys, sex and love are different things. 

“We really believe, ‘I can still love my wife and want to have sex with other women,’” Santagati says.

That rationale allows guys to cheat guilt-free. If there is guilt, it may not be about the sex but the consequences. Will she kiss and tell? Will the wife find out?

Thinking of cheating on your wife? Santagati has one recommendation. 

“Consider the worst-case scenario: Your wife finds out and is brokenhearted,” he says. “Ask yourself, is it worth it?”

Reason #10: It’s payback time.When a woman catches her man with his hand in someone else’s cookie jar, she figures she has a right to revenge. 

“If a woman finds out her significant other has been cheating, she may try to heal those hurt feelings by having sex with another man,” Alexander says. 

Benefits of Smiling

A smile means more than expressing contentment. Certain studies have revealed many ways of using your smile to your very own advantage. People generally smile when they are together but not necessarily because they are happy. People usually smile out of social reasons, and such a smiling mask can render a certain message.

We live in a world where most people follow their very own interests, and it's often not easy to find someone to trust. A smiling person always inspires trust. A genuine smile can suggest to other people that one is trustworthy. People who smile are assessed with greater generosity and extra-version, and when people share something good to each other, they usually put on a genuine smile. Even economists consider that smiles are valuable. A smile may increase other people's trust with approximately 10%.

People may also smile when they are caught doing bad things. According to a study made by La France and Hecht (1995), this can in fact be to their own advantage. We have the tendency to be more indulgent towards those who make mistakes if they put on a smile while being caught. It doesn't matter if it's a fake smile, a miserable smile or a genuine smile; they all work for the wrong-doer's good. Even an ashamed smile may help you get away pretty easy when you make mistakes such as for instance, forgetting to buy your spouse an anniversary gift, and so on.

We may also smile when we hear a piece of good news. In this case, women tend to smile more often than men. But on the other hand, smiling can also be a means of reducing the pain caused by a troubling situation. Psychologists call this hypothesis the psychological feedback. Even if we force ourselves to smile when we don't feel like, this may be enough to lift up our spirits just a little bit.

When we feel angry or anxious, our attention tends to narrow down. We can no longer see what's going on around us and we can only notice what is in front of us. So when we are stressed out or filled with anger, our ideas are less pleasant than the way they truly are within our own conscience. In order to understand a problem, we need those ideas that we do not find pleasant at that particular emotionally-charged moment. When we smile, we feel better and increase our attention flexibility and the ability to think holistically. Smiling can help us focus and understand better.

Smiling women may seem more attractive to men than smiling men to women. Men feel very attracted by a smiling, beautiful woman, whereas women may perceive a smiling man as less masculine. Psychologists say that a genuine smile never lies. Fake smiles involve only one's lips, whereas the genuine smiles, also called Duchenne smiles, also involve one's eyes.

Smiling can be used for hiding one's true feelings, but it's not so easy to imitate a genuine smile, because a genuine smile takes place within certain timing. There are certain clues that may help us determine the genuineness of a smile. Thus, a genuine smile starts slowly; it takes about half a second to spread out on the whole face. According to some researches, as compared to a frank and rapid smile, honest and slower smiles are more trustworthy, more genuine and even more coquette.

"Keep on smiling, and the world will smile with you." One of the greatest social pleasures is to smile and be smiled to in return, especially because this comes like a natural thing. As many of us have probably often noticed, not everyone smiles back at us. Hinsz and Tomhave (1991) wanted to see the degree to which people are willing to answer the smiles they receive. In this respect, their results suggest that 50% of the persons have smiled back when being smiled at.

Smiling can indeed increase our longevity chances. People who smile often live longer (if their smile is genuine, of course, and not a mere mask). A 1952 study based on some pictures taken of some baseball players suggested that those who used to smile a lot survived approximately 7 years longer than those who did not smile very often.